Shifting & changing is not easy. One of the hardest parts of change I think is the expectations that we put on ourselves of how we pictured the change to feel. Major change even when a change we chose is hard. Newness is so exciting. Fresh starts. The thing about a fresh start is that it is literally that. Starting over. Starting a new. New is not comfortable like your favorite pair of worn in jeans. New is learning how to walk when you already knew how to run. New comes with self-doubt. New comes with being uncomfortable. New comes with forgiving yourself for not knowing all the answers. New comes with being patient with yourself. So how do we learn to embrace the new and unknown and work through it?
I am working on letting go of my need to achieve. Yeah. I know. It sounds like a bumper sticker, or a self help group - but I'm a goal kinda person. Make a goal, get it done, move on to the next goal. But similar to another post I wrote about earlier this year- what if the result is not the point? What if by putting the pressure on the need to achieve I totally miss the point? That network I built over years. That didn't come over night. It took years. Years of breaking bread with colleagues and clients, going through the fire together, laughing at those inside jokes and working damn hard together.
Are you a need to achieve person? If so it's probably gotten you to where you are today And can be blocking you from being present and learning from the moment you are in right now. I challenge you to try these 5 things:
1) Slow down
2) Listen - like really listen
3) Pay attention to building relationships
4) Be patient with yourself
5) Ask someone you trust to hold you accountable for doing 1-4.